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The Beauty Detox Solution, I just can’t keep it to myself!

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Here it is: my life changer.

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This is pretty much the rest of my life.  Almost everything I’ve been gathering and pulling from different directions throughout my health journey since I was 14, rolled into one.  This ties in all the scattered pieces of knowledge and theories I studied and brings it down to a simple, natural, well-researched point of view.  My dear friend has been following Kimberly Snyder, a nutritionist for celebrities, for about 2 years. I remember when she sent me a link to her blog long ago, but I still didn’t fully get it then.  She reintroduced me to it about a week after I decided I need to commit much harder into a gluten-free, whole foods, and plant-based diet to preserve whatever healthy cells and tissue I have left.  I was starting to shut down again.

This wonderful book is a little bit of Skinny Bitch (with a much nicer tone), The Kind Diet, The Future of Food, Forks over Knives, and Body Ecology, all whipped into one.  There is a method to the madness of the myriad of diet methods you hear all over the world.  As a matter of fact, she trekked across the continents to find that with all the medications and easy access to desirable foods and lifestyles we have in America, we were still the most out-of-tune, sickest, cancerous, and fattest of all the other countries.  She got down to the deep cultures that maintained health -true inner beauty- until the days the human body finally slows to a stop.  This book can be a diet book if you want to lose weight, but if you want to re-join the ebb of nature, it’s a lifestyle.

She breaks it down: which foods to add to diet, which not to, in what order, and the why.  She’s not pushy about it either (I think, until the end of the book where I was all…okay, hold up…a little more transition would be nice before we start snacking on stinky foods loaded with bacteria).  It’s broken down into 3 Beauty Phases, depending at which level of healthy you’re already at.  If you don’t decide to give up meat, you don’t have to.  She will insist on dropping dairy, as do I, but if you don’t, she instructs you how to keep it in your diet, but still have your gut digest at its optimum.  Raise your hand if you’ve heard of Food Combination? Whaaaat?

The secret lies in energy and how it’s utilized within.  The energy works its hardest during digestion.  With this book, you will learn how to properly combine foods so that you free up energy from mulling over the futile breaking down of food, and unlock it to other parts of your body that need supplementation.  She easily explains how after years of build up, we all need to clean up the junk that gets stuck, as you maintain any old vehicle. Otherwise, the sludge collects in out gut and starts to deplete our nutrients and minerals from other areas of our body, rather than from our food.  We end up hungry when we are full.  This would be an explanation of why metabolisms slow down prematurely.

Most important, you will learn about acidity and alkalinity.  The practically sacred pH balance, as we’ve heard about, but never given its due attention.  At least I didn’t.  It’ll clue you in on the severity of what it means to have an overly acidic, in a country with access to almost strictly acidic foods.  Why it’s so important for me to share?: Lupus. Arthritis. Digestive Issues. Candida. Lupus.  My body has been so acid for years, it has leached alkaline minerals from my body so demandingly, and for so long, that those nutrients I was trying to absorb were just piling up as fodder for an autoimmune disease and chronic fatigue.  I don’t wish this on anyone!

Check out her blog and get some tips and summaries on how to clean up shop in the tummy: http://www.kimberlysnyder.net/blog/

I can try to sell you on the health specs, but I won’t.  You either want to get in touch with your body and what it’s telling you, or you’re not ready.  For the curious about what it would take to slim down and feel youthful again, I highly recommend it.  Some things you might outright want to deny, but you will find the facts inarguable.  However, no drastic changes need to be made.  You can just read it, digest it, and see how you feel about it later.  Let it make you aware of what changes your body needs to adapt to the cruel process of aging.  Make changes when you’re ready.

The benefits are almost immediate.  My skin has cleared up, I don’t feel like napping after any meals,  my mind is clearer, colors look brighter, I poop like a champion (oh she talks dirty, the book is about cleansing after all), the joint and muscle pain is gradually subsiding, that fibrotic feeling in the tense back muscles are releasing into free movement, wrinkles decreased, I got compliments on my color (which had gone pallid for a while), and I breathe like I had a deviated septum corrected.  The most treasured feeling I’m experiencing again is being able to walk with proud posture.  So much inflammation is dissipating all over my body.  And I can get and give hugs without wincing in pain.  Many more benefits are transforming as we speak.  Even Husband is chugging down one of her signature Glowing Green Smoothies every single morning (the picky adult eater).  Hell! Freezing over!  I have his support more than ever since he has seen me go from the couch, into the girl who gets excited and bouncy again over silly little nothings.   He’s a believer and is switching milks, reducing sugar, and letting me add onions to food, all the stuff that’ll keep him younger too!  I feel prettier, fresh, and like I’m moving forward again.  It’s a long road to cleanse your body, but it’s possible to rejuvenate the way nature intended.

And lastly, one beautiful thought she shared:  A life of health and wellness, is interchangeable with beauty.  It’s not about vanity.  But if you are strong and functional from within, you free up your mind and soul to so many other things, other than worrying about how you look, because you already feel beautiful on a deeper level.  It’s so simple and chock full of common sense, but to see it all come together and have it laid down in steps and charts for you…is priceless.

Please read for a mind-blowing job.  And if you do, let me know what you think about it!

P.S. I immediately bought a copy for one of my favorite persons in the world: my Naner.  And I will share any improvements if she experiences them as well.  She might even tell you herself.  She is already a beautiful and energetic person, but she would admit to a bit of life-sludge and is responsive to this exciting method of health.  She will not be doing it vegan style (or even gluten free I believe), as the book facilitates all current lifestyles. Unleeeess, she gets as addicted to getting cleaner and healthier and thinner like I’m getting. Wink.

We all need more recipes, always.  Here are two websites that I’m absolutely loving that really complement this diet:

http://healthyblenderrecipes.com/

http://www.pure2raw.com/

I will share more about them at a later date.  I just must, because their stories are so close to home, and because I want to live in a world where this……

Raw Unbaked Gluten Free Mint Avocado Cake - Click to link

…is healthy. 

Related Website:

  • www.bodyecology.com – The Body Ecology Diet (BED) shows you how to restore and maintain the important “inner ecology” your body needs to function properly and to eliminate or control the symptoms that rob you of the joy of living.

That is the next book on the reading list, and thus, reviewed to you, from me.  The articles easily relate a basic picture of what environment our bodies need to thrive.

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Organics promo at my favorite: VITACOST!

Save $10 off a plethora of natural and organic products at Vitacost! Click on the Twitter Twotts link at the top left of my page! If you help me build rewards, I will bake you this baby (with no refined sugar) and tell you all about it!

Vegan, Gluten Free, Pumpkin Carrot Cake & Maple Ginger Frosting, Hail Merry Indeed!

On the next blog post, I will be sharing the incredible, no-brainer, common sense, sources with guidelines on how to heal through food.  I talk a lot about doing something, anything, to improve your diet to prevent or reverse disease, but I haven’t been specific on how to go about it.  That’s because I myself didn’t know.  I drop dairy here, substitute a grain here and there, and take a supplement when I think it’ll benefit, but here’s what I have learned…TAKE NOTE: You can’t heal your aches and pains without intent and a plan.  You can’t just say, I’m going to eat healthier or eat wheat instead of white bread and suddenly become healthy.

Teaching your body to absorb food as fuel, in this modern world so deficient of readily available nutrients, means taking in knowledge, writings lists, learning new recipes, and completely transforming -with an open mind- almost everything we thought we knew about eating.

That sounds like too much work already doesn’t? Take is from Little Miss I-Can’t-Because (INSERT EXCUSE):  It’s doable.  It’s taken years to get to the point where I’ve embraced it.  I’ve stopped resisting the right to eat a burger that’s been scrubbed through ammonia or a soda that I saw clean rust off my car’s engine with my own eyes.  It’s taken me years to drop the fact that “everything in moderation” is a good mantra, because its not true.  Some foods and habits will always be received as hostile in our bodies and mind.

The good news is, you don’t have to do it in one week, or even one month.  If you already agree a path to health is the way to go, get used to the idea.  Pick up a book, read one of the websites I will provide.  You don’t have to buy into everything you read.  Just try one or two cleansing or healing changes and your body will start appreciating it.  If you truly listen to your body, it will be second-nature to move on to the next step.  It’s actually better to make the changes slowly, because too much too fast freaks out our delicate bodies (toxin release needs time to exit the body, if not they just hang around and get absorbed right back in).

Vitacost – easy transitions

So today’s blog is about a few things to add or substitute in our lives.  Some already know the health benefits involved, some will get to know them soon.  The education on what we’re truly consuming from Johnson&Johnson, Kraft and Kellog’s is slowly getting out there and people are beginning to say that there is nothing you can eat or use that won’t kill you anymore!!! Wrong.  Here is my favorite website and here is a little review on the things I swear by.  They have changed my life…Vitacost.

The prices are absolutely reasonable; sometimes the same as the cost of Walmart and Target retail products or less.  If you already shop at a health food store, these prices are even lower.  For $49.00 or more, shipping is free.  Anything less, you only pay $5.  $5 is the amount of gas I spend to go to Whole Foods.  Buy two products here, and I’ve already saved my money and a trip to the stores.  No need to worry about produce, because I buy that from local farmer markets.  If you’re tight on money, I use their BillMeLater option.  No interest charged if you pay within the month.  Say I spend $100. I don’t have to pay it until the statement comes in a month and then I pay $25 a week until the balance is gone.  Voila!

(If you choose to start purchasing, be a doll and use my link from Twitter Twotts above.  They have a promotions where you get $10 off your first purchase!!!!) (And so will I, off my next purchase).

$6.99

Organic Extra Virgin Coconut Oil

I don’t know where to start on how much healthier Coconut Oil is than any other oil.  Most oils damage the cellular structure of the foods we cook, even healthy cooking, creating radical damage to the cells, increasing acidity in our bodies, throwing off our true sensor of fullness, and have harmful saturated fats.  Coconut on the other hand, contains acids that fight bacteria and viruses, has medium chain fatty acids that promote weight loss, helps regulate cholesterol and thyroid issues.  The benefits are endless, read about it with Dr. Mercola. I remember when I used to think he was a quack.  Anyway, you can use it on your hair as a treatment to make your color pop, dry scalp, and thicken it up.  You can use it on your skin and face to help your pores breath from all the other junk we have to put on our decaying faces.  This tub yields a long way.  Makes the house smell delicious when you use it.  Chicken stir frys will never be the same (if you eat chicken). The price is great for a health food.

$4.63

Giovanni Tea Tree Triple Treat Shampoo (and Conditioner)

If you’re still buying cheap shampoo with chemicals, you really oughta stop.  Your hair is important and you don’t want it to be pretty right now; You want it to be strong and healthy until the day we finally rot.  This costs the same as the lab-contents used for Pantene or Loreal, but reaps a million times the benefits.  I once raved about the Giovanni 50/50 shampoo and conditioner, but this one takes the cake.  It’s more natural than the previous one.  But what makes it shine -pun intended- is the Tea Trea Oil, which I already love to use for cleaning products.  With Lupus,  hair loss comes with the package.  Once I started using this, the problem disappeared almost instantly.  Recently I switched to another organic shampoo because I couldn’t find this one at TJMaxx and in a few weeks my hair began to wilt away again.  My scalp dried up, became itchy, and had tiny pimplish lesions.  I was freaking out wondering where I went wrong! To test my theory about the shampoo, I grabbed my pure TTO bottle and lathered up a few drops with the expensive shampoo I’d replaced it with.  Immediately you can feel the blood rush and mintiness go to the follicles and the cool relief on the little bumps.  Hair is shiny and bouncy again.  It’s all about circulation! Bringing fresh healthy blood to your locks!

So if you’ve mistreated your hair chemically, it’s dry and limp, lacking nutrients, don’t breathe well when you sleep (crooked at the next), or you suspect it has build-up at the follicles, please please please…. Buy this.  I buy two at a time since it’s so inexpensive and I use it a lot.  Or just buy the TTO, $4.97, and mix a few drops each time you pump your current shampoo. I would douse myself in this miraculous oil if I could.  I just ordered the Giovanni Leave-In Conditioner and will tell you how that goes.

$29.74

New Wave Enviro Premium Shower Filter

Speaking of luscious hair, if your water at home or apt sucks or you’re too average to have an in-home-all-over filtering system, this is the thing to splurge on.  It’s not much, it’s lasts about six months, though I swear there is so much chlorine where I live that we replace it about every 3 months.  Also, his showers are longer than Mariah Carey’s.  This really makes a big difference is suppleness and shine.  All those chemicals seep into your head and brain.  I even used to get headaches after showering since I’m sensitive to chemicals.  The refill is $21 after the first buy.  At Whole Foods, this filter costs $50 I believe; the replacement: $30.

I’m having so much fun!! What else to share!!

$10.39

Stevia (natural calorie free sugar subsitute)

With fiber of all things.  I got this one pounder because I needed a sweetener, and it didn’t hurt to have some extra fiber.  If you haven’t learned about the horrors of sugar yet, please do horrify yourself : Why everyone needs to understand sugar hangover; The Emotional and Physical Effects.  Not to mention why your kid won’t stop doing floor pinwheels.  If you think you’re doing good by taking Truvia or Stevia in the Raw, check your ingredients again! They contain Erithyrol or something else ending in “enol” which they will convince you its natural and safe.  Well, thanks to there being no law defining what natural is…plutonium is also natural..you get scammed.  It’s something that when fermented turns into formaldehyde.  Could it be that bad?  I was once doing vegan and natural, hardcore, but nothing would explain why every time I had my tea or anything else with Truvia, my brain would tremble and get inflamed.  Wanna play with your brain like that?  I know it seems drastic, but if you already have chronic fatigue, an autoimmune disease, cancer and diabetes in your family history..start playing around with the idea of a natural sweetener.  This one takes some getting used to, but we all bought into Splenda for a while, didn’t we?  You won’t feel the hint of bitter soon.  It’s also super concentrated so you only have to use a pinch and it goes a long way. Flirt around with this and then we’ll talk about how we should be getting our sugars only from pure fruits and how yummy it is to do so once we can make time and effort to think of it from a natural standpoint.  It’s a little more expensive if you’re used to refined sugar, but its worth the money to lose a few pounds and lose the dependency from a evil little ingredient.

$13.59

$14.96

Plant Protein

Sorry, didn’t know how to picture this side by side with our new format on WordPress.  For years I drank dairy based protein shakes made from casein and whey when I strength trained.  If you read the China Study, you will learn how detrimental these proteins are for our potential cancer cells.  Not to mention the sugar free ones that were loaded with aspartame and all the processed hard-to-digest ingredients that make you bloated!  I’ve decided not to do protein shakes anymore, but my husband was still having this.  Slowly joining me on my health kick, he’s agreed to switch to these proteins, organic, allergy, dairy, gluten-free, and loaded with veggies and good grains.  And they taste amazing with almond milk and fruits if you don’t want to eat a whole meal.  They are incredibly delicious, available in a few other flavors. And with Vitacost, there are Vitacost brand sales all the time.  I just bought two Plant Proteins for $6.00 each.  That’s just retarded.

As long as I’m on this health kick, it behooves me to go to bed.  I have so many more products to share, but they will have to wait.  I will review and discuss Chia seeds, raw apple cider vinegar, probiotics, and chemical free makeup.  I will write soon and hope you find these products helpful.  Feel free to look for other great products to replace with organic equivalents, like deodorants, wrinkle creams, detergent, toothpaste, canned foods, vitamins, minerals, dried fruits, cereals, raw cacao powder, gluten free flours….just about anything.

Happy Health!

P.S.  Thanks so much for reading.  Hope you think about some of these items and make a $10-off purchase from the link above!

It's just teasing us, isn't it? Click link for recipe.

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Medications, Depression and Food Matters

“One quarter of what you eat keeps you alive and 3/4 of what you eat keeps your doctor alive.”

Take it from someone who’s immunity barrier broke from antidepressants, stimulants, narcotic anxiety medicine, migraine meds, birth control, and antibiotics.  You can say the long, drawn out, collective doctor-prescribed use abuse of medications, without him ever suggestion that maybe you’re having a food reaction to the crap that you eat…is the beginning of malnutrition.  Malnutrition, on a cellular level, is the birth of disease. If you don’t have cancer, heart disease, arthritis, migraines, IBS, PTDS, ADHD, etc… you name it: you don’t have to.  It’s so hard to begin prevention when you can’t forsee yourself with chronic illness, everyday fatigue, or something embarrassing as erectile dysfunction or yeast infections.  But start tiny and small, just by opening your mind to a different way of equipping our bodies of healing themselves.  You might forego these problems without having to feel old, sick, slow and tired, as you age.  But the one thing people don’t relate to food often is depression.

Depression

When I was around 16, during the pubescent years as my mother claims, I began to display many issues of a nervous stomach, and following that, a negative outlook and anxious depression. There wasn’t as much sadness as there was anxiety, but eventually being in one low state of mind can lead to another. No one could understood what was happening, this was all new stuff in the Spanish community. I saw gastro doctors, I saw psychiatrists, respectively. The gastro was quick to put me on a health diet. I lost weight and felt good.  Until I started eating normally again.  The psychiatrist was quick to diagnose me as OCD and Depressive. Never mind asking that my symptoms would happen immediately after eating. Almost anything. At a time where doctors were trusted, I started popping the pills. I needed relief from my increasingly troubled teenage mind. I only grew worse. And what’s even worse is that I started believing the hype and using the misdiagnosed label to explain my erratic behavior almost as an excuse. My poor family went through hell dealing with this little angel who was suddenly emotionally volatile and unpredictable.  It was no way to grow up.  Of course, I wasn’t always down.  Some days were great, but steadily it got harder to deal with the sluggishness and the side effects of the drugs they were pushing on me.

Fast forward to moving out at 19, the dreaded 21 and up years when the mix of antidepressants and alcohol gleefully gave the psychiatrist reason to label me bipolar (another hype I totally bought into because I was relieved there was an answer for my anxiety), and stopping at about 26, no doctors had bothered to make the connection that I might be reacting to the burgers and Oreos I pounded down as a teen, that maybe eating Vaca Frita “fried cow” was slowly debilitating my metabolism, that all the Kool-Aid and Ramen Noodles had MSG, colors, and chemicals that will slowly zap your neurons and freak out your natural body processes.  No one told me to take a vitamin or eat a vegetable.  All the books I ravaged through to find my answers barely hinted at diet.  They spoke of obvious food allergies, but not nutrition in general.  All throughout these medications, I never ever felt stable for longer than the first two days that a new med will zone you out.  Or as long as it takes an Adderall to wear out.

In short, my immune was compromised since the beginning by food. As early as infancy, the overload of toxins and chemicals start setting up the strength of your healing ability for the rest of your life. Some with blessed metabolisms will clean out these toxins and delay disease until they are older, so it is understandable they feel untouchable when they eat at Subway and don’t spaz out from all the nitrates and preservatives added to the meats and breads.  They never gain a pound and are pictures of apparent health (as was my husband until about age 30. Now he’s drinking vegetable smoothies with me). Some of us like the chemicals believe it or not.  Boy did I love me some Red Bull aspartame rushes and purple Pixie Stix! Some of us though, start getting ill young and can be easily be confused -even by trained psychologists- as emotional problems.    As mentioned earlier, I had health diets here and there.  I slowly incorporated new habits of healthy eating as I learned things.  I did the South Beach Diet when I was 19.  I was vegetarian and vegan for months at a time.  But culturally, it was hard to keep up with and the accumulated toxins from previous years were already dug in deep.  If your gut (where the most of your immune lies) is not being strengthen and fed well, the mind and body connection are aware of it and will cave eventually.

Come 26 years old, right before my wedding, started the migraines. I had already reduced working out because of joint and muscle pain. I started suspecting something was incredibly wrong. This was the first time it hit me, when the Neuro doctor asked me if I was reacting to foods, to MSG in particular. I started paying attention to what I ate. This is when the great Red#40 dawned on me.  I didn’t know much about the hazards of food, even though already having been through a large vegan stint in which I felt fabulous, had read Skinny Bitch (in efforts to lose even more weight on top of working out, I stumbled into this deceivingly but awesome fowl-mouthed book detailing in excruciating details everything that was wrong with animal products), and heard that certain preservatives can cause behavioral problems in children.  I knew it was real somewhere in the world, but not me.  I was always physically health aside from being pudgy, a few gastro problems, and having mental health issues, which who doesn’t? Right???

Wrong.  After the wedding …and I mean, right after the wedding!!!…  is when the barrier broke and all the tiny chronic issues amounted to one autoimmune inflammation disease.  Barely able to hold a job, stand for an hour, and drive to a store. Poor husband had a newlywed cripple in the house and we were both unsure of how to go about this.  I decided to drop the migraine medicine which seemed to have destroyed the last bit of immune I had left.  I battled with antibiotics because of infections that were becoming resistant.  At doctors’ insistence, I just needed to take more antibiotics, weakening and depleting my immune more.

Until… I found a Rheumatologist that had more integral view:  I was put on the anti-inflammatory diet.  I dropped Adderall (the stimulant drug for lack of focus), refused all antibiotics, and flushed the migraine medicines.  Half of my symptoms declined.  I kissed gluten goodbye and suddenly I could see and think clearly! Recently, I dropped dairy and the inflammation is significantly reduced.  Not just the swelling, but actual weight.  I can breath, not even registering that I wasn’t breathing optimally before.  My skin has cleared up nicely, a few wrinkles have reduced, and the flaky patchy problems are almost gone.  Hormones seemed to be balanced, there is energy coming through, and though Lupus is still raging a war in my body, I’m winning most of the battles.  I have a hard time imagining how I ever used to be such a depressed, and disturbed child.  If you discount our enemy, PMS, my mind and mental state if stronger than ever.  I’m a pretty damn optimistic person.  On no synthetic medications at all. (There’s no cure for my sarcasm and dark humor though).

Moral of the story, and there are many:

  • Don’t attribute all of your problems on life, and yourself, and others. Forgive yourself easier because the root of underlying problems may surprise you, even absolve you.
  • Check your diet.  Drop one food at a time for two weeks and see how you feel. Do your symptoms get better? Do you have more energy?  Are you regular?
  • Don’t trust doctors and medication. Not that your doctor isn’t trained well.  He just is not trained in nutrition.  If you watch the video links I gave you, you will find that they hardly touch the subject in medical school.  That is, if you don’t want to read this shocker: What The Drug Companies Won’t Tell You and Your Doctor Doesn’t Know. I was devastated to find out the our caretakers were being manipulated by a money making machine.  Our friend Merck has dreams that we stay ill to keep his profits up.
  • Do your research.  Goes hand in hand with the previous two points.
  • Rely on nature.  One thing we forget (or were never taught) is that you can’t just turn off a problem with a pill, we can help our bodies heal themselves.  It’s pretty miraculous really.
  • It’s hard work to protect yourself and the ones we love from the dangers of the world, but its doable if you can find, admit the problems, and create change.
  • Add your own….
For those who are genuinely experiencing non-food related depression, meaning you digest well, your stress levels are regulated, there is nothing of significant distress, trauma or abuse, sleep enough, and aren’t narcissistic living an empty life, this is a genuine imbalance and it is believed these imbalances begin not in the brain, but vitamin deficiencies.  They could also be malfunctions in the adrenal system if it seems to come on pretty suddenly (hormonal imbalances).
From the same video shown above, Food Matters, please watch this excerpt below.  For anyone taking antidepressants, even antipsychotics as they now have you believe this is a great addition to your ‘other pill’ that can’t get the job done, and not getting enough results, and too many side effects, there is a reason these medications will not work long term.  Where do I get off saying that? Oh you know, just having taken every medication known to Glasko and Pfizer!!! There are natural alternative ways:

For anyone curious of trying this (you can take on top of your antidepressant) please see link below for instructions on how to increase a Niacin (Vitamin B-3) supplement.  You have nothing to lose except a few bucks.  I know someone trying this and the gradual results are extremely promising.  And as usual, eating healthier always helps the healing process.

http://www.foodmatters.tv/_webapp_417125/How_to_Take_Niacin_-Vitamin_B3-_for_Depression_and_Anxiety

Dr. Hoffer’s story on how Niacin treatment was successful, but rejected, as a treatment for alcoholism (rooted by depression and anxiety).

http://doctoryourself.com/hoffer_niacin.html

Note: I used to feel self conscious about talking about depression.  It wasn’t yet outwardly common.  It bared a heavy stigma.  Today, so many people are going through these conditions that we joke about our need for valiums and xanax in our coffee.  However, the stigma still lives.  I don’t feel self-conscious about it any more and that is why it took me so long to actually write about depression.  Especially when I went through a few ups and downs after being diagnosed with an autoimmune disease.  Just as much as society needs to embrace a new understanding of nutrition, cleansing (detoxing and colonics, oh yes, i said colonics), and natural healing, we need to accept that many of us are sick emotionally and mentally.  Our friends and family are going through depressions whether they wear it on their sleeves or not, whether they’re getting medical attention for it or not.  I spent a long life battling emotions and except for the valid and occasional I’m-sick-of-it-all days,  by trial and error and lots of research, I have come across natural and simple ways to improve life quality (Even while still being crippled on some days).  Do not neglect yourself or loved ones if they’re are struggling with depression symptoms.  

Disclaimer:  I am not a doctor or a trained professional.  These suggestions and methods are all based on personal research and experience.  Everyone’s physical make up is different and may are subject to individual conditions.  Any changes in your diet and supplemental health should be done at your own risk while consulting a health professional.  Unless you’re like me and do it without anyone’s approval.  

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Just Keep Swimming.

Moving websites seems to have been a bad move.  So far, only two followers remained.  Although I don’t intend to quit writing, I’ve stepped away from the laptop for a bit while I settled personal matters, hoping that I subconsciously get hit with a bright idea of what my next step:  To stay with WordPress, without the prospect for monetary gain where I receive a good and moderate audience while I happily ramble on, or switch to WordPress and risk starting all over again just to maybe make money, but flop around trying to rebuild an appealing website.

Blogger offers many options and freedoms that WordPress does not, but WordPress can be ready-made eye candy, easier on the eyes, since I’m an amateur blogger.  I admit that Blogger wasn’t as neat looking and takes longer to load.  My readers would have to invest patience while I learn how to flounder around with color schemes, fonts, frames and such, that don’t take much effort in this world-wide-location.  So, from a reader’s perspective, I can understand that its just not as fluid to follow.  And add to that the bombardment of Twittering, Facebooking, and other social networking sites that we have to follow, how we carefully have to consider how many email notifications we sign up for before we’re have 3,000 emails in our inbox, none from a human being.

That’s where my blog stands now, in purgatory.  The switch was not very successful, but it can’t stop me from writing.  So, where have I been for about 2 months you ask? Stressed.  That’s where I’ve been.  I had no job, tons of bills, a cat who thought my being ill wasn’t enough and joined me, and my anniversary gift (my car) broke down (still sitting motionless in the garage).  My dear ol ma insisted on buying the hunk of supplements I take to maintain my health because we were in a jam.  Still, my stress levels overrided the healthy influx of herbs and released floods of chemical toxins delegating inflammation to my pitiful glass joints.  I felt crappy, but I never lost sight, nor hope, because if I’ve learned anything from this volatile sickness, is that if you persist hard enough, after every swooping down, there’s a floating right back up.

And I’m up.  I found work… that didn’t pan out…then again, but it wasn’t a good fit… so I acquired another, that starts it two weeks.  We have income. We have health insurance coming our way soon.  We will have 401K that I can resort to for the next time I’m tossed out of a job.  We will have life insurance, so my husband and I can feel free to get hit by a truck without leaving our spouse penniless to marry another.  The cats can now eat canned natural food again like that spoiled rats they are.

I confess that I fell out of my diet many times over out of mental duress.  What can I say, cookies are my road to perdition.  But I’m rehabbing myself now that I can afford healthy food again.  Bottoms up to Celery Juice, hello ph balance.  I’ve taking up swimming since my good-for-nothing joints and muscles won’t do much else and I feel stronger.  I have found I’m very capable of handling a full time job without wanting to go on shooting sprees.  I will not settled for high stress jobs anymore.

I suppose that’s enough unorganized journaling for now.  I wrote for the sake of continuity. I will bring on the quality in the coming posts now that life is crawling back to normal.  But I sure missed writing, and sharing, and hearing from others who have similar struggles.

Any suggestions or ideas about blogging, whether here or from another host, I’m all ears.

P.S. Listening to Fiona Apple tonight.  I will still be listening to her croon when I’m 50 years old, shaking my fist in the air along with her musical angst.

 

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New Website Location….Go there!

http://housewifingaround.blogspot.com/

Remember reading my bio where I had made the goal of blogging for adventure, but with ulterior motive, to monetize from spilling out my guts, feelings, and little adventures in health and early relationships???

It has been done.  The switch is being made! Thank you for the 4,122 visits to this humble wesbite.  I beg  invite my regular readers to follow me from this wonderful website host, WordPress, to Blogspot from Blogger, to achieve the dreams a cripple can only do from the comfort of her living room.  (Pull handicap card: Check).

http://housewifingaround.blogspot.com/

If you read occasionally and are on the fence about my semi-organized expression style and occasionally awful grammar and syntax error (which drives me insane too, it’s not all about you), but are interested in reading someone else’s surreal, yet averagely real, fall from grace to get your mind off of yours, you must please follow my link and subscribe to my Google and Amazon affiliated blog.  Oh? did I mention Google and Amazon will be trying to sell you junk while I discourse about sugarless cookies and alopecia?

http://housewifingaround.blogspot.com/

Yes, my money makers  faithful public! I need your help to possibly make some extra money and gain some credentials in the world of the Google Internet.  Taking 14-minimum organic supplements a day just so that I have enough clarity to stop bumping into walls, locking keys in cars, and feeding myself raw foods and fun-free desserts (surprising more expensive that eating Krafts Easy Mac n Cheese or Big Macs), is turning out to be bankruptive*, notwithstanding that Starbucks is a nostalgic memory of the past.  And did I mention I got laid off???

*bankruptive: noun \ˈbaŋk-(ˌ)rəpt\iv 1: the process of suddenly nearing the economic pitfalls of poverty due to an onslaught of modern woes, i.e. trending organic foods, juicing, overpriced coffee houses, sulfate-free shampoo, discount stores exploitative child labor.

http://housewifingaround.blogspot.com/

While I teeter on the verge of peddling, on the more serious side, I do intend to lose the Call of Full-Time one day, in order to tend to my health and household at a pace that doesn’t accelerate cellular degeneration.  I intend to work from home, study for a job that allows me to me minimally physical, or learn an art that keeps my mind strong and alive to endure the days where I’m ready to shoot a government worker for partial disability which, long story short, I will never be eligible for because I have opted to take the natural avenue rather than the pharmaceutical.

http://housewifingaround.blogspot.com/

What I have to offer in the new website?  I will not put ads in shameless direct view of the page.  It will be as discreet as possible.  The content is the same and similar information on how to attempt to live chemical free, stop or reverse an autoimmune disease, reviews on trial and error methodology on a budget, while managing life’s little annoying, tedious, and quality-disrupting inconveniences, cat pictures, men who burp “bow wow” and expect treats, shared finds (books, music, packaged “organic” foods, etc.) that are awesome, and have endured snobbish and rigorous critique…all so that you won’t have to.

If anything, if you sympathize with having too many one-of-those-days, and can’t think straight with the baby blaring, the microwave dinners whirring, the cranky boss condescending, the clueless husband, and the xanax starting to take effect, just use the repetitive motion of clicking on my ads over and over as stress therapy.  Use the search boxes on my page.  And I will personally find you and kiss your forehead if you were to purchase your books (ANY BOOK, even the dreaded Kindle) directly from my links.  Know that you are buying me a cup of coffee (which I can’t drink) and sending me on my way to a potential career in, 1.website creation and/or, 2. a future B.S. in Wellness and Nutrition, my life long passion.  I mean a Batchelor’s Degree, but it’s brainless as to why they call it a B.S.  We’re I to gain knowledge and experience on any of these, you’re viewing pleasure would increase by like…a lot.

http://housewifingaround.blogspot.com/

What you CAN’T expect from the new website. My ventures into HTML and web language are novice.  The website isn’t yet perfect and/or smooth and or/cutting edge.  Although I will have the freedom to advertise, I also have a great opportunity to really and truly personalize my story with inexpensive visuals and neat little undecipherable, nerdy codes, work with graphics, and work on the same frame for 3 hours every night… and you wouldn’t even notice.  Another thing you can’t expect: the progress will not take off with lighting speed.  I’m working on a life plan here, relying on the variable surprises that my health imposes, but gradually making baby steps.  Somewhere between the last two eventful (underestimation) weeks, my teenage cousin trying to find her place in the dubious working world, and a temporary job that I landed for one week, I realized I had to make a large leap to get there.

Bells and Whistles

The new website is more app and widget friendly.  What does that mean? Who cares?  But it is Facebook, Twitter, Stumble, Email, Linked In, smart phones, and Apocalypyse-ready.  You can FOLLOW me on Google, which I really don’t know how that works yet: Google Followers – Click it here! Click it! Please and thank you.

You can subscribe to My Yahoo and who knows what else.  You will get similar emails on my new posts.  The WordPress ones will cease. We’ll see.  Not like I said I know what I’m doing.

It will be formatted for Intelligent Phones.  While someone is ignoring you on their Facebook phone, you could pretend you don’t care about the decline of conversational etiquette, but instead you can be clicking on my ads reading invaluable insights.  If you end up playing Angry Birds, I will not hold it against you.  We all need our vices.

If you’re still with me, I thank you from the bottom of my inflamed cardiac muscle.  Frankly, I’m more impressed at your attention span.  I hope you stay with me for a bit longer until Alzheimer’s fully kicks in and I’m publishing giberrish…which actually, still might be entertaining.

CLICK HERE FOR THE INEVITABLE UPGRADE THAT IS MODERN TIMES

Love,

Elena the Wolf

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“Mawwage is what bwings us togwether today….”

In memory of my (not dead) husband:

Mawwage is awesome.  Some of the time.  Most of the time. Am I right?

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It’s been a year and a half.  I still consider us a pair of newlyweds.  I’m still madly in love and surprised at how in love you could be with someone you want to kill a few times a week.

I reckon since this blog is about being recently married and how to deal with so many changes all at once, it was due time to talk about man versus women.

If you’ve kept up with my mini-saga or read the bio, I’ve mentioned how immediately after marriage I – we- began to deal with serious health problems.  This causes a lot of conflict and confusion for a couple who is supposed to be  locked in the bedroom, high on endorphins and in honeymoon stage.  Even during the honeymoon, we had to make modifications due to my escalating symptoms.  Coming home to a surreal reality of problems is not for the weak.  While a women feels, “Thank God I have a good strong man to help me through this rough time”, a man is most likely feeling, “This is not fair! We’re supposed to be having the time of our lives.”  Though a wife still acknowledges the unfairness of it all, a man’s need to fix something he cannot can really test him, especially early in a marriage before either one has settled themselves into a role of new responsibilities.

This is not limited to couples with illness though.  Even before I got married, I was fascinated by the psychological relationship between husband and wife.  Being a naive and arrogant little girl, when I read books like Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus (for fun, yes, I’m a nerd), I thought, “Why don’t people just say what they’re feeling? Then they would both understand each other!!! It’s so simple.” Haha. Hahahahaha. Hahahahaaa.

There are delicate balances in a loving relationship, or a non-loving one.  There are so many fine lines that it feels more like a tight rope when having to express needs, wants, and emotions.  God forbid you overuse that word: f-e-e-l-i-n-g-s.

However, I’m proud to say that through hard work and application I’ve found the strength to be patient and found a man who in his limited-emotional male vocabulary, and has been patient with me as well.  Better said, we have been patient with the life we’ve been handed and managed to breakthrough to all the little surprises that life shoots at the fan and that all the poo that will continually be flying down on us just to keep us on our game.  Disease, unemployment, cars breaking down, Verizon rape bills…… I gotta give a round of applause for a man who deserves more than a break; and I appreciate him not breaking down on me like that damn Ford Focus he spent six months to pimp out for my anniversary gift.

He has proven to be made of that good tough material.  He still hasn’t learned to make me a gluten-free vegan meal to save his life, but he tucks me in when my body is swollen and takes out the cat poop for me. More so, he trusts that there’s still a little firecracker in me, even when I’m stuck on the couch.  My hero!

For all the other new brides out there, and by new I mean at least up to two years (so says one of my favorite books listed below), the “struggle” is normal no matter what difficulties arise.  Men are a different species and us wifeys have a hard time not swatting our men over their heads when times get tough or when inappropriate fart jokes are made.  But we must be patient for them.  We’re the ones who have to figure it out before they do because they’re not designed to read up or ask their girl friends for relationship advice.  Weepy and naggy women, no matter what how much we deserve to whine, can distance a man or make him recoil into passive aggressiveness, closing the door to certain intimacies.  We have to put our big girl thongs on and learn how to control the situation while making them think they’re the ones in control.  It takes developing a strong measure of common sense and sass, if we haven’t learned it already by the time we’re ball and chain’d.  We’re more scientifically gifted and versed in communication, so it’s our burden and privilege to set the tone, the mood, to let them feel relaxed enough to take the reins.

Men can reach their husband potential relatively quickly if we support their individual needs;  all throughout keeping ourselves together during our times of needs when they’re too stressed to cater to us.  They were not created to wait on our hand and foot to our every want, and even need.  As a matter of fact, we are their complement.  Some men will be very helpful while learning to love after the lust period, but it will not always come natural to them and we have to buck up during this process.  I will admit that some husbands can just turn out a dud altogether sometimes, but that’s a whole other story.  But personally, I think, the ones who are honestly committed,  deserve a wife who can make them feel just as safe and secure during rough times, as they can to us.

So, here’s what has helped me through times when we’re both stumped, tired, annoyed, stressed, you name it….

  • Prayers. I mean, heartfelt, all out, near-accusation-kneeling-supplications, to the Big Guy upstairs.
  • Good and Selective Advice.  Limited to family, and one or two blood-tight friends (don’t want to air business out to everyone), and wise/older/successful couples.  To them, I am forever grateful for their honesty.
  • It’s a Guy Thing – It’s next to my bed.  Looove this book.  A look into the feminine and masculine balance and why men have to scratch and burp while we wonder where our flowers are.
  • What No One Tells the Bride – This book, with collective realizations from different types of new brides, allows women to ease into the violent shock of living in a committed relationship with a penis carrier, especially the independent women.  It takes two years for the average woman to feel like a settled wife.  And we all fear becoming our mothers.  This alone will settle a girl.
  • Why Mars and Venus Collide – I read this one before getting married. The knowledge carried through to the big plummeting vows was priceless.  Out of all the Mars and Venus books, this one seemed most relevant in its insight into times of high stress.  An reasonable  look into why men and women can’t help the way they are and communicate, why it clashes even though its biologically designed to complement each other, and why modern stresses affect the natural balance.
  • Feeling Good – This book is not about marraige.  It’s actually about depression.  I never wanted to read it because at the time I did, I was not depressed.  But for anyone who is highly emotional and reactive, (which marriage can highlight this part of our psyche) this doctor can lead you into enlightenment about why we have certain emotional thoughts and  behaviors and how to find the root of controlling ourselves.  Knowing thyself.  The downside is that you can catch when everyone else is behaving irrationally too and you have to resist the urge of calling them out.  If we can command ourselves, we can deal with others better.
  • Holy Scriptures – Oh yes, I’m serious. And I don’t mean the Ephesians where we’re all told who we are to submit to and that’s that.  Proverbs 31:10-31.  It talks about the capable wife.  Every time I feel lazy, whimpish, resentful, or needy…I read this over and over and imagine a Middle-Eastern prowess of ancient times, taking care of business, and being honored by her hard working husband.  This woman is energetic, spiritual, a real go-getter, a community socialite, runs her house like a tight ship, earns the trust and respect of her husband by being proactive, and earns the praise of her God.  Highly inspirational and more motivating than any of the other books I have in my library.
Have I got it all figured out? I don’t think so.  There are many more obstacles and adventures to come before we croak and we’re released from our sacred vows.  However, when you start with hardship, but constantly come out winning from each test, I swear it only gets better.
If children are involved, please disregard everything I’ve said and please find another source on advice.  I know nothing about dynamics with little ones and I’m no where near ready to know or comment on.  I would dare to say keep the scriptures attached to your foreheads like the Jews used to do.

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Little Victories : Discovering Awesome Household products

Today I bought medical gloves to wear for house chores.  Specifically for any use of beach products or cat duties/doodies.  I slapped on the green nitrile gloves, got inside our bathtub and sprinkled Comet all over and started scrubbing away.  I got really into it.  Within about two minutes of finishing, the bottoms of my feet had slightly swelled, my legs had feathery currents running up and down up from toes to knees, I was sick to my stomach, nauseous, my head was pounding.  The chemicals had seeped up my bare feet, paying no mind to the hand protection I wore, and penetrated its way up.

Our bodies absorb everything and our feet are no exception.  To most people, these chemicals and toxins build up over time and your immune system will start figuring out what it is and find out by what process to get rid of them.  If too much builds up you will get sick, down the road.  With an autoimmune disease progressing in my body, it immediately acknowledged unlawful entry and planned an attack toward my own body.  I’ve known for a while I must go natural on home cleaning products, but I doubted they’re effectiveness.

But it’s a good day.  I really didn’t have much faith that homemade cleaning products could be any good, but I figured it was still something I had to look into being at how transparent my pores could be to anything around me and honestly, the tub was in dire need of a serious scrubbin’.  Remembering back on my favorite book on domestication, No Hassle Housecleaning, I had learned about cleaning with tea tree oil, a natural powerful antiseptic big corporations are slapping the sticker their flammable liquids.   Additionally, I now have cat babies and they’re the ones closer to the floors we clean with toxic materials; a reason many pets are also getting diseases in this modern world.  Oh yes, your dog may have lupus too. Inconceivable!

I bought a few ingredients for very low prices, some I already had, once my Target floor cleaner had been used up.  I looked up a recipe online and found this wonderful blog article and recipe:

BEST FLOOR CLEANER EVER

  • white distilled vinegar
  • distilled water
  • tea tree essential oil
  • baking soda
  • spray bottle
  • Optional – essential oil for fragrance – peppermint, grapefruit, eucalyptus, lavender, etc.

Obviously, sharing the recipe isn’t my method of persuasion.  But I promise it was better than the expensive natural cleaners my mop was chugging through.  So, what are the hang-ups you might have?

EFFECTIVENESS

Amazing! Stains that had been on our apartment floor since before we moved in were cleared out.  A bit of baking soda smooths grit and leaves a polished gleam.  It takes some tweaking -more oils for me, waaay less baking soda -but it leaves the floor (and counters) sparkling!   I couldn’t stop finding surfaces to clean.  I was so excited I almost sprayed Chev Chelios…the cat.

SCENT

Your house will not smell like salad dressing.  This was an important one to me because I DO NOT Like that acidic smell and am easily nauseous.  The good news is that the scent of vinegar fades and leaves behind the aromatic smells of the tea tree and/or the optional additional flavor you add on.  You must use the tea tree to clean and disinfect, the rest are just for additional aroma.  I had peppermint on the shelf so my house ended smelling fresh.  I did notice you have to shake up the bottle before each use or it’ll smell of the smell of vinegar takes longer to fade.  I wanted it to smell stronger of peppermint, stored in my pantry for fresh breath, digestion, and muscle pain, so I added double the drops it called for.  An added plus is that peppermint repels bugs,roaches, and other creepers.  Even without an additional oil though, there will be a clean overall feel about the place.

PRICE

The above ingredients are all you need.  If you have a home water filtration system you’re set in that department.  If not, buy…

  • Distilled Water – Free or by the gallon. $0.65 cents. $0.25 for refills.
  • Distilled White Vinegar, buy by the gallon about $2 or 3 dollars.  Will last a few months.
  • Baking Soda – $0.78 per box.
  • Spray Bottle – $0.98
  • Tea tree oil – Starting from $8.99 and up at Vitamin Shoppe if you can’t find a health food store. Will last forever.
  • Optional essential oil – $4.89 for Peppermint (good for repelling bugs and creepers

CONVENIENCE

  • You have a start-up fee of about $15 or less and don’t have to replace the oils for a long time.
  • The larger the sizes of vinegar and oils, the more you save.
  • It serves wonderfully as a floor, stove, surface, multipurpose cleaner.
  • It’s safe enough to eat off the floor.
  • The pets may feel free to lick the linoleum, if they’re into that.
  • Tie a red ribbon around it and it makes a cute homemade gift for all your “green” friends, ill family members, new moms, etc.
  • The oils for other purposes as well, like ailments, aromatic burners, base massage oils, and bath and foot soaks.
  • You can clean barefoot and not have to worry about dry yucky feet.
As you’ve read, I’ve been fighting my health issues since December, but it’s taken me this long to pull a simple recipe together.  However slow at it may be, start allowing the idea to simmer that chemical free is better, and nature has always been superior, without the side effects (and the side effects do come to stake their claim one way or another).  Maybe in a few months or a year you’ll be ready to try it too and love it as well.  I’m started to round up more ingredients already, like alcohol and borax, and see where that leads me.
Personally, I’m taking this experience as proof I can confidently venture into more homemade cleaning products, like bathtub, oven and glass cleaners that don’t require a Hazmat suit to have a sparkly smell-good home.  I just had to share.
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